Archive - Disagree Better

Reflection prompt #24

On dealing with regret and sorrow in the aftermath of a conflict

Jul 10 • Tammy Lenski

Talk it out or type it out?

How to match the channel to the goal when disagreement shows up.

Jul 3 • Tammy Lenski

June 2026

3 ideas and a question: On delivering criticism

Ideas for delivering difficult feedback they'll actually consider.

Jun 26 • Tammy Lenski

Office hours with Tammy, June 2026

The evolution of a conflict resolver and a way to think about conflict resolution in the AI age.

Jun 19 • Tammy Lenski

Reflection prompt #23

Assessing the risk of having or not having that difficult conversation.

Jun 12 • Tammy Lenski

The map is not the territory

Naive realism is one of conflict’s most insidious traps.

Jun 5 • Tammy Lenski

May 2026

What's on my nightstand, late spring edition

My occasional roundup of books and articles that have caught my attention.

May 29 • Tammy Lenski

Vocab lab: Freer no, better yes

When people feel freer to say no, their yes means something.

May 22 • Tammy Lenski

QueryCards get a glow-up

When a conversation throws you, this sounding board is a swipe away.

May 15 • Tammy Lenski

Office hours with Tammy, May 2026

Ways to give better feedback about aggressive behavior

May 8 • Tammy Lenski

Simplex stepping through conflict

A mathematician’s 1947 breakthrough gives us a useful mental model for moving through conflict.

May 1 • Tammy Lenski

April 2026

Field notes: "Difficult" people

Thinking about and responding to someone who seems difficult

Apr 17 • Tammy Lenski

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